Frequently Asked Questions

What is speed dating?

Speed dating is a fun and fast paced way to meet a lot of other singles in your area, who are also looking to find someone special. Its origins are credited to Rabbi Yaacov Deyo, who held the first speed-dating event at Peet’s Café in Beverly Hills, CA in 1998–as a way to help Jewish singles meet and marry. Soon after, speed dating events caught on across the United States and have now become one of the fastest growing dating trends in the world!

What types of people attend speed dating events?

We do not specifically screen applicants further than establishing their identity but our events tend to attract friendly, normal men and women from a variety of career backgrounds. We have found that one of the things they have in common is that they are usually intelligent, busy professionals who are usually too busy to meet someone special on their own.

How does speed dating work?

Participants meet each other in a series of short “mini-dates”, usually lasting from five to six minutes. At the end of each mini-date, the host or hostess signals when to move on to the next date. At the end of the event, participants submit their list of who they would like to meet to your host. If there is a match, contact information is forwarded to both parties the next day by your host so they may contact each other to arrange their first date.

Is five to six minutes long enough?

It would be naïve of us to say yes. We have tried different time increments, but have found that five to six minutes works best. Statistics show that chemistry can be immediate. Five to six minutes may not be enough time to determine if you are sitting next to your soul mate, but it can be enough time to figure out if you have chemistry and rapport with someone and whether or not you would like to get to know that person better or not.

How many people should I expect to meet at an event?

Normally, each event has 20 men and 20 women in attendance. This number fluctuates depending on many factors, but on average you can expect to meet somewhere between 15 – 30 people per event.

How many matches can I choose?

You may choose any number of matches you like, and most participants pick more than one. Remember, the only way to score a mutual match is for both parties to check “yes” on the match scorecard!

What information does a match receive?

Matched participants receive the other person’s email address and cell phone number as previously submitted by each participant during the event registration process.

What if I contact one of my matches and they don’t reply?

Why not try one more time? Sometimes people don’t check their email every day or go on vacation so give it a few days. We encourage everyone to please be courteous and reply to fellow participants even if you change your mind and don’t want to hear from them again.

How do I register for an event?

Prospective participants must pre-register for events. This ensures we have gender balance and that participants fall within the listed age range. Simply visit our Events page and locate an event in your age group that you would like to attend. It is recommended you register early because with a limited number of participants allowed, the event can fill up quickly.

What age categories are offered?

Age categories, ranging from 21-60, are carefully chosen for each event and venue based on their subtle differences in demographics and other factors. Common age groups include 21-30, 25-35, 31-40, 35-45, 41-50, 45-55, 51-60, 55-65 as well as staggered age groups including 21-33 women/23-35 men, 34-46 women/36-48 men, 40-52 women/42-54 men, and 46-58 women/48-60 men.

Please be aware that all participants will be required to provide identification (driver’s license) verifying their age upon arrival at the event. The reason for this is to ensure all participants are comfortable with the age group and interests of their dates.

How much does it cost to attend your events?

All Pulse Speed Dating events offer you two options. If you choose the “Speed Dating” option, by the end of the evening you’ll meet 15-20 people within your age group, for five to six minutes each. If you choose the “Singles Mingle” option, by the end of the evening you’ll meet any number of like-minded people within your age group in a relaxed party atmosphere. The “Speed Dating” option costs up to $40 and the “Singles Mingle” option costs up to $25 depending upon the event package. Occasionally, we do offer one or two free drinks and free appetizers as part of the event package. If that’s the case, we will make mention of this our Events page. We try to arrange all of our events during Happy Hour, so that refreshments are very affordable.

What payment methods are accepted?

Our merchant account is with PayPal, one of the most secure online merchants in the world. Upon registration, you will be directed to the Pulse Speed Dating PayPal page which is protected by secure 128bit encryption. Our relationship with PayPal allows us to accept credit cards payments using Visa, MasterCard, Discover and American Express.

Do you accept phone orders?

At this time we are not able to accept credit card payments over the phone. Our credit card processor requires that customers enter their credit card information personally; it can not be done by a 3rd party.

What happens if the event is sold out?

We wish we could accommodate everyone but our events are very popular and fill up quickly. To ensure the best possible experience, each event has a maximum capacity and our system is programmed with this information. When an event is completely sold out the system does not permit any further registration for that event. Should an event be sold out, feel free to add your information to our “Wait List” by simply emailing us

What if I am unable to attend the event?

The success of Pulse Speed Dating events depends on the participant attendance ratio. Therefore, if you are unable to attend an event which you have registered for, you can reschedule your reservation if your request is made within seven business days before the registered event begins. If your request to reschedule is submitted less than seven business days before the registered event begins, we reserve the right, based on availability, not to reschedule you for another Pulse Speed Dating event. However, we do understand that last minute emergencies do happen.

If your rescheduling request meets our policy guidelines, there will be a $10 non-refundable change fee that will be applied to your credit card. You will be issued a code to allow you to RSVP for any other Pulse Speed Dating event of your choice within your age range (subject to availability). Please be aware that you will only be allowed to reschedule one time per reservation and we do not issue refunds on any reservations.

Where are your events held?

Our venues are among the Greater Phoenix area’s most popular nightlife lounges, clubs, and restaurants. We have carefully chosen our venues based on location, their stylish, relaxed atmosphere, reputation, friendliness, safety and easy access to public parking.

Are your events safe?

We believe that speed dating is one of the safest ways to meet other local singles in person. At Pulse Speed Dating & Singles Mingle events you will get to meet many single people in one evening, at safe venues in a public setting. We have chosen our venues based on safety, friendliness, and reputation. However, the world isn’t perfect and we know that. That is why we urge everyone to make good decisions so they arrive home safely every time.

Do I need to be single to attend?

Our policy is that each member be single or not otherwise attached. We do not perform any background checks to verify the marital status of any participant. Such checks are the responsibility of the participant seeking such information. Pulse Speed Dating introduces singles to each other for love or friendship. If you are separated or divorced and consider yourself a single, and are looking for love or friendship, then you are encouraged to attend our events.

Can I bring a friend?

You can bring a friend for support but he/she cannot participate in the event unless they are a registered participant. We recommend using our ‘Tell A Friend’ feature to invite your friends. Simply visit our website and click on the ‘Tell A Friend’ link.

Do you recommend I arrive early?

We ask that everyone arrive 30 minutes before start time to check in and get situated so that the event can get started on time.

How long do your events last?

The length of an event is based on the number of daters in attendance. Generally, our events last about 2 – 2.5 hours including intermission.

Are there any breaks during the evening?

Yes, there is one 20 minute break halfway through the evening, where most people take a comfort stop or grab another drink before meeting the last group of singles.

What should I bring with me?

Please bring photo identification (driver’s license) to verify your age with your host, and in case you want to have a drink at the event.

What should I wear?

Many participants arrive directly from work so you’ll see business casual or even a suit or two. Our standard advice is to wear whatever you would feel comfortable wearing on an evening out with friends. Most of our venues are upscale, yet casual and relaxed, however, it’s still good to make a great first impression.

What should I talk about?

There are so many fun things to talk about during the evening. We recommend thinking about what you want to learn about the other participants before the event. We also suggest steering away from questions that will result in a yes or no answer, since they won’t get you into the rhythm of a conversation.

Dating friendly topics such as personal interests, hobbies, current affairs, sports and leisure time activities tend to work well. Try to stand out and differentiate yourself from others in a positive way. Tasteful humor and a light-hearted demeanor go a long way. And if you are sitting across from someone you’re not attracted to, please remember that they still have a story to tell.

We discourage people from disclosing any personal information or talking about their job or business interests. The reason for this is safety related so as not to reveal your place of residence or work.

What should I NOT talk about?

Do not ask your date for his or her contact information directly or for a second date. One of the fun aspects about speed dating is the pressure free feeling. You are not allowed to pressure anyone to answer questions they do not want to answer. You are also not allowed to ask sexual, lewd, or inappropriate questions, or make any sexual, lewd, or inappropriate remarks.

What happens when the event is over?

That‘s up to you! Participants should feel free to stay and mingle for as long as you want after the event.

What is the success rate of Pulse Speed Dating events?

We have found that 90% of participants who attend our events meet someone they would like to see again. You can’t get better odds than that. That being said, in the event that cupid’s arrow misfired the first time, we look forward to finding you a match at our next event.

How long have you been in the speed dating and singles mingle business?

The founder of Pulse Speed Dating has been in the events business for over 25 years and has been involved in the speed dating industry since 2001. Pulse Speed Dating is the largest speed dating company in the Greater Phoenix area. Its founder is regarded as an industry expert who has dedicated his time and efforts to growing Pulse Speed Dating in an effort to help single men and women meet and hopefully develop successful, loving long term relationships.